Claiming a relationship

So I have been getting to know a guy since the first week of Oct, right after I broke up with someone. You know the saying that you find someone when your not looking??? Well this guy found me just when I felt like giving up, on FetLife, and he contacted me because there was something about my profile he connected to.

I was really cautious at first. I had a thing about not making friends online I didnt first meet and to top it off I didnt want an online fake thing. I was very clear about this, but he kept chatting with me and he got my cell number and something about him caught my attention.

Oddly enough, it was how he didnt seem like the kind of guy I would notice is what got me to give him a 2nd look. I thought for a brief moment to see what this nice normal looking guy is about. So we started talking, and he just suprised me. He had told me he had interests in being submissive, but he had so much strength and just knew what to say to diffuse me, and yes I am very attracted to that. I felt safe enough to acually break down and cry while talking on the phone.

So he is my first online thing. I have NEVER did an online date situation but there is it. We talk on the phone, he sends me questions in e/ms and I respond and send him more questions. I get jealousy issues when he talks about other people, and he does the same (but much quieter than me). This thing has had its up and downs, but what impresses me is how much he pays attention. Although he may not have all the comminication skills I hope he would have, I know he cares and I know he remembers things and I feel special.

So the thing is, he has never been in a relationship. With this, I have a feeling he isnt sure how to go about one. So where I want to let him accept this at his own pace like he asks me to do (he says it takes time for him), I believe he also needs me to be the one to move it along. I was the one that bought the plane ticket to go see him in St Louis so we could finally meet face to face. I didnt want to wait, I just want to see I was real. Now he is coming out to visit me in a week and I get to introduce hin to a whole other side of my life.

So I keep asking him to consider us GF and BF. He hesitates saying he isnt seeing anyone else but he needs time. Then he mentioned something in passing that I am the one setting the tone. So with the in mind I flat out told him he was my BF, I changed my relationship status to relect that, and I am telling everyone that YES I have a BF, its complicated due to distance, and just set the tone a little higher. Now I wait for his reation.

I am a dominate personality, and I will claim what I want. He is the one I want very badly. I think he is sweet and cute, and our discussions of kink fits everything I want. He has a good responsible job with the ambition for more. He is freaking buying a 3 bdrm house, 2 car garage, an office, and full basement. Thats going to me my home someday, I just know it. Am I getting ahead of myself, yes. However I am ambitious too and knowing what I want and how to go for it is who I am.

So I am claiming him!